I actually had an enjoyable day yesterday. I don't know if it's because i woke up in a good mood or what?
My day consisted of me going to class all day. I had done all my homework before hand and for some reason that felt good-because i normally don't do so.
I went to my feminist french women class, and we had in depth conversation about two essays Simone De Beauvoir had wrote. 'The Mother' and 'Women In Love' the more i read her stuff, the more i feel a connection to her to some extent. In 'The Mother' she explains how women are seen by men as a simple womb and basically feels the need to breed. And with this she will think having a child will fill this void that is missing when in fact that is the wrong reason to have kids.
Simone also feels child birth and the whole pregnancy experience is replusive and can't understand why anyone would put themselves in that position. Maybe because i do not want kids in my future is why i felt to agree on what she had to say with her comments. She also pointed out that women should look at their ecomonic status before having children-which is agree full heartedly. In today's life it's so difficult to have children and have full times job. Who is going to able to take care of the kid? do you have enough money to put it in a good day care? or even get a nanny? Will you be able to spend quality time with you child? Or find yourself working 60+ hours a week?
In 'Women In Love' she explains that since the beginning of time women are taught that love is the ultimate goal in life. To find someone who completes you and to get married and if you don't have that you are seen as someone who is missing something.
She explains because of this women feels love is their new religion when they find a man. And with that they will lose themselves in the male. devoting everything to their significant other, by becoming his 'slave' for lack of better words. Because of this, women lose all sense of who they are and in return, most of the time the man will leave the women. Making the women then feel worthless. She feels women should not only find a man who has their own liberty but also find their own liberty. To still have a sense of who they are once they fall in love.
I feel that's so true-especially when you look at the ideology of what the 'perfect wife' should in tell. She should clean the house, cook for the husband when he comes home, be caring towards him and the children while still looking fabulous. That is entirely impossible in todays age.
In some ways i feel i'm becoming more of a 21st century women. i do find the need to get married and have kids. I don't believe in devoting everything to the man i love. Nor do i think it's important to cook, clean etc for him. I feel it should be a joint decision and we both should pitch in. Even though her essays were written in the early 1900's during the french revolution, her points are still relevant and for some reason women still do those things.
I then went to Creative writing class-which i loath at the current moment. I hate poetry and everything that involves with poetry. I don't understand nor want to write it. So why does she torture me with this crap?
My last class of the day- and the time when i am most hungry (because i start classes at 11 and don't end till 4) my Transnation class, we watching 'Paris Is Burning'. A Documentary of drag queens in Harlem in the late 80's. And how they were involve in Drag Ball-it was quite interesting and i had no idea that Voguing was an actual dance that they started. I just thought it was some lame song Madonna made up.
Then i got my hair done-seriously beauty is pain. I almost shed of tear, not cool.
Then came home, watch gossip girl and talk to my boy. It made me happy he called me his 'love', in spanish. Oh spanish boys are such sweet talkers.
Patrizia Pepe
OK, how come when I look up that simone chick, I can't find her essays????!!!
Just go with the poetry. Love or loath it, it's here....you can embrace it or fight it, but you're going to end up with a poem.
My g-ma always said...It takes pains to be beautiful. She also says, Knockers up, when I walk with a haunch.
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1oh that's because i spelled her name wrong LOL, it's Simone De Beauvoir. You should be able to google her now.
I just can't wait till we're done with our poetry section. I'm somewhat excited about everything else. but the worst is that she constantly wants us to read our horrible poems.
2I'm getting my hair did on Thursday, finally! How did you get it done? I think I am going a little pixie-ish but I need her opionion first
Sounds likes an interesting lady this Simone De Beauvoir. I will check her out one of these nights. I understand what you are saying about wanting a hubby and kids but not being willing to sacrifice yourself/ desires in the process. I honestly don't ever see myself being married. Ever. I would be just as happy with a s.o., no biggie to me.
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As for kids, I am not anti-kids but I would really rather adopt when I am like mid 50's and hopefully have a little life funding than I have nearing my 30's. Mommie Dearest style but without the wire hangers or serious hedge trimmers. :dreams big: But in all seriousness, reproducing does not really appeal to me. There are so many other kids who are worthy of a good childhood and happy,loved lifestyle. :steps off the platform:
Anywho, I kinda took that to a whole 'nother level so I'm gonna dip out on that note with a little
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3I think I have some reading to do.
4*Kat - I think I love your g-ma.
I agree *sweetpea*...me too. Nice post *miss-britt*
5Britt -
Wow. Not sure how to comment. I'm a mom of 2 boys (age 10 & 12), and been married for 15 years. My hunny works and I work. We do our best to treat each other like people, and we both help (to an extent) around the house. It's gotten better since the boys have gotten older. They're more helpful.
Good luck w/ school.
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